2014 a Short Review

I have not blogged in almost 10 months, shocking I know. Life has been rather busy and went from being very hard to being very wonderful. I had a month of work early in the year and now I am back on track and trying to finish the PhD. I have four wonderful pets, Daisy the dog, Aslan and Willow the cats and Karl the bunny. Most importantly I have my lovely girlfriend.

 

Enough mushiness now. I am going to re-start blogging so I just wanted to start with a quick recap of the time I’ve not been blogging.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fandom is Strange – Poetry

 

Obsession and impulsion are like an illness of the mind

driving people to think they know and understand people

they have never met.

 

claims of small incidences and coincidences

of tweets and cash exchanged

aren't the making of a beautiful friendships.

 

People build their lives around strangers

foundations built on fantasies

will be disappoint you in the end.

 

So live your life in the real world

the fantasy world will still be there

but let the real world shine.

 

 

Dear 16 Year Old Me – Poetry

Dear 16 year old me
Yes, at the age of 24 you are still overweight
And you’re still wearing those same glasses
You never really became cool
Although at the age of 19 you had a hair crisis
And just stopped caring

Dear 16 year old me
That music really sucks
You know you don’t like deathmetal
Go put some B*Witched on your iPod
Go on…you know you want to
And stop wearing that black lipstick
You secretly know it doesn’t look good

Dear 16 year old me
Remember when you read that book
And assured yourself it was a phase
It wasn’t
So stop kissing boys in bars
And when someone tells you they live in a castle
Don’t believe them
You will lose not only a significant amount of dignity that night
But also a very nice cardigan

Dear 16 year old me
Someone will call you beautiful
Even when you have a spot the size of the moon on your face
And some friendships will last 400 miles
And some days the world will be absolutely perfect

Dear 16 year old me
You will make some mistakes
Being catatonic in the knife capital of Europe
That’s a low point
And breaking your ankle on Hogmanay another
But in all honesty
Don’t worry to much
At least this far
It’s been alright

 

Shockingly this friendship has lasted 400 miles
Shockingly this friendship has lasted 400 miles

My 16th Birthday Party

On Relationships, Harry Potter and Drunken Chats

I’ve just spent the weekend with my best friend at the Green Man Festival (blog post about festivaling to follow), and my best friend and I have a wonderful habit of philosophising and contemplating the world when together, particularly after a lot of alcohol has been consumed. Well, I say philosophising, we are probably slurring drunkenly and shouting, “Aye, fair dos mate!” every two minutes while pouring copious amounts of alcohol into a mug.

That aside, one thing we contemplated several times over the weekend was our current relationships and lack of previous ones. I won’t regale you with our drunken chat but the gist of it was that my adolescence had no prepared me for a serious relationship like it was supposed to (by these relationships I mean the proper adult relationships with the meeting of the parents and considering the big terrifying F*****).

When I was 15 years old my friends were having their first relationships, drunken fumbles at house parties while drinking Blue Wicked and tentative handholding at the school gate. What did I do with my late adolescence? I read Harry Potter, wrote FanFiction and listened to My Chemical Romance. In no way do I consider this a waste of my youth. I still enjoy Harry Potter, still have a quick fling with my favourite FanFics and love a bit of MCR. In contrast the majority of contemporises have now broken up with their first loves and are moving on to their new shiny squeeze.

But this adolescence of wizards left me at a loose end, relationship wise. I did not do relationships, a fact I told my Lady Friend when we started dating. Well, my wording at that point was slightly off; I said, “I don’t do relationships”, which was almost taken the wrong way. I had never had a meeting of the parents, an introduction to the friends and never even had a proper first kiss that wasn’t fueled by alcohol in a club at two in the morning. So going into a relationship was scary.

So where does this leave me now. I have been in a relationship with the LF for just over four months. Four wonderful months where things just seemed to have happened naturally. Nothing has been painful, or forced, or fake. It’s just been. I’m not saying I’m not incapable at times. I am. But I think we are working it out pretty well, I still have crazy ‘what am I doing’ moments, but they are followed up by laughs, and jokes and that takes away the scary moments.

Love
Perfect…but with many and varied flaws.

25 by 25

So on Sunday (18th August) I turn the grand old age of 24 and as this song demonstrates it is a terrifying prospect! So I have decided that before I hit my quarter century I should have a year of fun. I have been gathering suggestions from many of my friends and colleagues, and have finally got a list of 25 things I aim to do in the next year. This should ensure my year on the planet will be well spent, exciting and different from the last 24.

So here is the list, and I have from the 18th August 2013 till 17th August 2014 to complete everything on it.

1. Have a media black out month: no facebook, twitter, bbc iPlayer, Netfix, YouTube etc…

2. Lose weight: I would at least like to get into a comfy wee UK size 14.

3. Run a 10K.

4. Go on a proper holiday (with someone who is not a cunt, if this is not available then go on my own).

5. Buy flowers for someone and be bought flowers.

6. Get something published and be paid for it.

7. Write my thesis.

8. Write in my blog for a whole year.

9. Clear overdraft

10. Get a new job and life plan.

11. Visit one new place every month: Could be a new place like a coffee shop, restaurant, village, city, country. Just needs to be something that I have never done before.

12. Become accredited as a Associate Fellow of the Higher Education Academy.

13. Busking in town and then get drunk afterwards.

14. Dress up as a drag king for a night.

15. Cycle 30 miles in one go.

16. Read 12 classic novels: From this List

17. Get grade one on an instrument: perhaps my chanter or something totally new.

18. Get a provisional drivers license.

19. Go to a gym class with Leanne and meet Dom Jackie

20. Shave some of my hair off: I’m thinking a wee undercut?

21. Do NaNoWriMo.

22. Put on a one woman show for my friends.

23. Go to bingo.

24. Go fishing.

25. Knit something of substance: e.g jumper, animal etc